I think so many times we end up getting sucked into perfection, because we have this feeling or belief that perfection will protect us. Protect us from maybe what is the unknown, maybe it is known. Protect us from judgment, blame, or maybe even shame. If we are perfect, or live perfect, or act perfect, than we can minimize these feelings, or altogether avoid them.
I've been observing my 9 year daughter lately on this very subject. I know that deep down inside she has this great sense of feeling worthy, feeling loved, belonging. And I know this. I see it and everyday I try to nurture this need of hers with as much love and kisses, affirmations and shower of emotion that I can possibly give her. But even with that, I still see her striving for perfection, or getting mad when things have to be perfect. I told her just the other day, that I don't ever expect her to be perfect, I won't ever pass judgment on her if she's not perfect, and she should never be shamed of who she is.
We all need to feel worthy of love and belonging, and our worthiness is on the line when we feel like we are never enough.
I told this to my daughter and want to repeat it here today, "You are enough".
I've been observing my 9 year daughter lately on this very subject. I know that deep down inside she has this great sense of feeling worthy, feeling loved, belonging. And I know this. I see it and everyday I try to nurture this need of hers with as much love and kisses, affirmations and shower of emotion that I can possibly give her. But even with that, I still see her striving for perfection, or getting mad when things have to be perfect. I told her just the other day, that I don't ever expect her to be perfect, I won't ever pass judgment on her if she's not perfect, and she should never be shamed of who she is.
We all need to feel worthy of love and belonging, and our worthiness is on the line when we feel like we are never enough.
I told this to my daughter and want to repeat it here today, "You are enough".
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