Stop being scared of the future

Have you ever been scared to take the next step in your progress of life? Scared to move forward because you are afraid of what might happen?  Scared about the future?  Why is it that so many times we have these feelings in our head about what's going to happen in the future.  For so long, I was scared to take the next step, scared to move forward, because what if it wasn't perfect?  What if it wasn't the perfect moment?

I think that we as individuals have to start living our life, living it not being scared of what could happen, but living it, so that we are happy with what is happening.  Right now.  It's hard though, I get it. When you want everything in control. You want everything to turn out just perfectly. You want life to just go by easily and if it's all perfect, than the better.  But life isn't all about that.  You don't have to be scared to take the next step, or worry about what's waiting on the other side.  Just live in the present. It's amazing the power of this statement and how much this has really helped me heal. 

Just be happy!

I think all women tend to beat themselves up a little bit if things don't work out just as planned.  I know for myself I have struggled with unreasonable expectations of both my life and myself. I get upset if some of those expectations don't work out. If only there was someone there every step of the way to teach us to be more accepting of ourselves, and just live life, even when things don't work out as planned, just think of how much happier we would be. 

I've been working on trying to not have those unrealistic expectations and just live.  If things work out as planned, than great, if not, than no worries.  I've been working on just living and being happy.


 

Control your Perfectionism

For many years I struggled with trying to control all of my external chaos. I would try to control my house, my kids, the way people did things around me, my work and even my life. To me, if I had control of all of those things, than I would feel good, feel accomplished.  On top of that I had put this extreme goal in my head that if all of that was done perfectly, than everything was even better.  

What I wasn't realizing was that this need to control was really about me.  It wasn't about the people I was trying to control or the things I was controlling.  It was about a need that I was trying to fill. Or perhaps a fear that I had that I didn't even realize I had.  What really was happening was that I was trying to control all of this external chaos in my world, when really I was trying to control my own internal chaos.

For me, I needed to find out what was driving my need for control and perfectionism.  I needed to find out what I was afraid of.  Ask yourself this:  "What are you afraid people will conclude about you if you aren't perfect?  What do you know about you that you think everybody would see, if you didn't keep up this image?"  Once you find these answers than you begin your journey to control these feelings, control your perfectionism.