I don't have to be everything

Being a mom is a difficult job.  I get it.  Being a woman is just as difficult. I'm starting to realize that perfectionism is really just the icing on the cake. In reality, I was trying to be everything to everybody, and somehow was throwing in a wrench and trying to be perfect at all of it.  I get that too.

I've been waking up at 630 lately to try to work out in the mornings. Today marks day 10 for me, and let me tell you, it has not been easy.  The reason I say that is, as a mom, as a woman, it's a difficult job to be everything.  I want to be a fit person, someone who is there for my children and active for them, then a mom, and make sure everybody is dressed and fed and out the door by 8:00, not forgetting being a woman, trying to get myself ready for work for the day and be somewhat presentable.  Then from 8 to 5, an employee, a contributor, a co-worker to my peers.  Then from 5 to 9, somehow be a mom again, feeding, homework, sports, bathing, cleaning, and everything else that happens in that small time frame.  On top of that somehow I have to be a wife, and appear sexy enough for my husband.  I get it.  When it reaches 9:30pm, I've had it.  I'm done. I'm tired.  

But life doesn't have to be me just being this passive recipient, going on the conveyor belt of life.  One thing we have to realize is that we are not in control.  We have influence, but not control. The key is to have a great well being about one self and lead with definition.  A definition of who your self worth is.  Whether it be you as mom leading your family, or you as a business leader leading your business. Realize this.  Life is going to happen.  How you interpret life, how you influence life is up to you and your choice.  For me, this life is going to happen.  So why waste another minute on trying to make it perfect.  It's difficult enough as is, no need to try to have it be some unrealistic goal due to perfectionism.  Whatever your story is, whatever your core belief, let go of trying to be everything to everybody, and just be you.

Imperfect Parent

Part of my struggle of being a parent is trying to keep it all together.  I am here to admit that I do not have it all together. I am not a perfect mom.

I know that I'm not alone in this journey of life, and I can bet that there are many of you out there that know this same thing.  But many of you need that reminder in life, just as I do sometimes as well.  Whether it be parenting, or work, or relationships, we do not have to live this life as desperate people. Desperate for trying to be all that we can, and the most perfect we can be.   I get it.  I lay awake sometimes, with a deep need to get it right.  Deep down I really want to do things right.  I want to be a good mom.  I want to be a good wife.  I want to have it all under control.

However that constant reminder that keeps hovering over my head is this. Nobody is perfect.  There is no perfect parent. No perfect child.  No matter how many books I read, or how many blogs I follow, I have to know that there is no one solution for getting things right.    So doing the right thing does not equal having to be perfect.  Doing life right does not mean perfection. 

I know that life is a big job. In fact, I've had the thought before of "If I'm not perfect than why try?"  But as soon as I get that thought in my mind that I am here to do everything by myself, I have to remind myself that I'm not alone.  I should not "lean not on my own understanding, but yet seek the Lord first."